December arrives, begin the celebrations, family meals, business meals, drink some more, we skipped the exercise day to shop and even in some cases we forget to keep looking job because we are celebrating. Everyone is laughter and joy, with those family moments, the faces of illusion of the sons, nephews or grandchildren, and leave the stress aside. But as we approach the eve, we started putting things that will change during the next year, from how to seek employment to diet and exercise.
When it comes to setting resolutions, human unite and converge almost always in the same things. Although some will mark some more specific and detailed, typical always include healthy eating, exercise more, the search for a better job (or a job in many cases), spending more family time, better financial situation home, taking least start reading a book or take a course to improve our skills, spend less time watching television, call my mother every day …
Anyway, from the United States to Peru, Brazil, Spain or Russia, the resolutions are very much alike. What is also very much like it is that as you spend a week in the new year, resolutions are beginning to leave until it arrives in March and did not even remember them. Already our heads again next December. But what can be done to, once and for all, take action on the matter?
One of the mistakes we make when trying to implement our list of resolutions is to attack many time. Simply our willpower is limited, it can not serve as many simultaneous demands. It’s like trying on the first week of quitting smoking, eating healthy, exercising and getting a new job. Impossible. On the second day, we left, sunk by the frustration of not being able to carry out our plans. Therefore, what we must do first is to filter the list, select the top 5 among all priorities. Of those five, we’ll take one any more and we’re going to focus on that during the next four weeks, or until we are able to make this new activity without thinking. To help in those first sessions, it is that we help ourselves at first. Take the example we have chosen to start exercising, one of the most common. We have decided that, three days a week, let’s go for a walk for thirty minutes every morning when we wake up. What we will do is, the night before, we will post exercise clothes and sports shoes right next to the bed, so that when we wake up, not even have to think. Imagine that you are going to lift the first day walking and you have to spend ten minutes looking for sports clothing, looking the other five zapatilas, etc. That will lead to frustration. So leave everything ready so that when starting your activity, you have to not waste energy or willpower. Remember that your willpower is limited.
Some psychologists believe that for most people are not able to keep our resolutions is the reason why the changes we propose are too radical. This is why many advise us begin with the idea of improving a little something good we already do. That does not mean that we will not change, but we do it in a more gradual way, in order not to run into such a high wall that allows us to give us the perfect excuse to leave. So, what we can do other is to choose an activity to do well and start doing a little better. When we put the streamlining of resolutions to improve, as the example of walking three days a week, with this idea of improving something that already do well, we will have more chances to keep us in a positive way.
Sources: Unlocking the immunity to change– https://www.class-central.com/mooc/947/edx-gse1-1x-unlocking-the-immunity-to-change-a-new-approach-to-personal-improvement
Stages of Change
The Power of Habit- –
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People